SAVING A DUTCH-FILIPINO MARRIAGE Once I met a Filipino nurse in Rotterdam married to a Dutch. She was in deep depression. ROSA – (Sobbing.) My marriage is on the rocks. Please help me. ME – Why what’s wrong? ROSA – My husband can’t seem to understand me. It’s hard to explain. He mistreats me. ME – He is blind to Filipino culture and ways, that’s why. ROSA – Whatever. So what do I do? ME – Tell him to visit your family in Bicol alone without you. Tell him to stay for a month. ROSA – What will that do? Sounds ridiculously to me. In time, in desperation, Rosa agreed to my plan. The husband readily agreed. He stayed for one month at their Bicol home with her mother and six sisters. The guy had a crush on one of the sisters, so the plan almost fell apart. But the mother found out and sent the sister away. When the husband came home, Rosa was in tears. He was a changed man. He said he learned about Filipino values and ways. He became kinder, gentler, more patient and loving. He even started cooking Flip food for Rosa, which he learned in Bicol. Now he is proud to invite guests to eat Filipino food. He is proud to be Filipino, Rosa to be Dutch. Now they are happily married. I myself was surprised that I was such a good amateur marriage counselor. Try it. Advise cross cultural couples whose marriages are falling apart to try cultural immersion. It’s like magic. It opens up hearts and minds. No need for books or sermons, just experiential wisdom from immersion. eastwind
eastwind Posters 18c – 24a – pptgen126
Miraculous rose petal depicting the Holy Trinity Our Lady Mediatrix of Grace, Lipa City, Philippines, Pray for us and for the conversion of China.
Hubble space photo, NASA amdg