Relationships Carve our Destiny (#47)

“Majority of people who come to me have relationship problems more than health problems. Relationships make or break people’s lives, more than cancer or physical ailments. Spiritual wounds can be deadlier than physical wounds”, said Sr. Raquel Reodica, RVM, retired cancer-healer for the Lord.

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‘True Tales’ Series – Volume 47

March 23, 2024 – Archives tr470
By Bernie V. Lopez, eastwindreplyctr@gmail.com

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The Gentle Bank Manager.

This story is inspired by a true-to-life situation.

Gerry was a high-strung bank Vice President. He was driven by 8 to 12 cups of black coffee the whole day, without which he could not function. He was totally addicted to caffeine. With his excess adrenaline, he screamed orders at his subordinates like a general on the frontlines. He was totally feared and hated. They put urine in his coffee in silent revenge. Cruelty was contagious.

One day, he collapsed in a massive heart attack and was dead on arrival at the hospital. It was not caffeine that killed him but relationships, the lack of ‘people skills’, the lack of ability in dealing with people around him, the utter loneliness. For every scream, he was losing a week of his life. When he got home, he would continue his tirades against his family. At the office, his people celebrated his passing away. The janitor quipped, “Poor guy. He didn’t even know what killed him.” He led a miserable meaningless life.

Gladys, a sweet gentle old maid, replaced Gerry. She never called people to her room to give orders. Instead, she would go to their desks to whispered her orders. When she arrived in the morning, the cappuccino and a red rose on a tall thin vase greeted her. She said that there was no need for the rose. She got rid of the vase. But the vase-less rose persisted the next day and every succeeding day. Gentleness was contagious. Her charisma spread across the entire bank. Eventually, she married her charming male secretary half her age and had five gentle kids. She led a joyful meaningful life.

The story of Gerry and Gladys reflects the principle of karma – you reap what you sow, whether you plant good or bad seeds.

Teaching as a Form of Loving.

This story is inspired by a true-to-life character.

This is based on an actual situation. Warren, 75 years old, was a university professor. He had an incomplete Bachelor of Science Degree in Accounting because he did not finish his thesis. But he was sought after by students because of the simplicity and clarity of how he taught complex accounting principles. His fame spread across the entire campus. Students would take his Accounting 101 class even as an elective. When the class got bigger, the Dean split it into two, and he had to give the same lecture twice.

When the young Turks in the faculty got rid of the old professors, Warren was the exception. Students staged a protest at the Dean’s office. The Dean was forced to retain him at the age of 75, the only professor above 60 years old on campus. He was untouchable.

But his total charisma did not just come from his platform skills alone. He loved his students and would stay behind in the late afternoon to answer their questions. This 75-years-old professor was the crush of many young women, who would invent ridiculous accounting questions just to talk to him.

A student once told him that a young new accounting professor was secretly copying his syllabus. To the student’s surprise, he replied, “Who cares. As long as more students learn, why not? My loyalty to students is prior to my loyalty to the school.” When the professor discovered Warren found out that he was secretly using his syllabus, he came to apologize. Warren invited him for coffee. They eventually spent hours at the cafeteria with Warren teaching the young professor more tricks and how to build more confidence. The young professor became just as popular as Warren, who told him, “Never refuse a student asking for help. Teaching is a form of loving, and don’t you forget that.” They became the best of friends.

Bad relationships cause the breakup of families, parents against children, brothers against sisters. A home where family members have ‘inherited the wind’ eventually break up. Money and inheritance are popular issues. Good relationships and love cause the opposite – peace, harmony and happiness in the family and in the workplace.

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FOR THOSE WHO NEED HEALING, spiritual or physical (depression, anxiety, loneliness, terminal cancer, covid, diabetes, etc.) – say an online healing prayer with one or both healers below. Terminal patients have been healed in cyberspace. All you need is to have faith and to ask the Lord –

1) Father Fernando Suarez – www.youtube.com/watch?v=8UP3LHBgtIc.
2) Sr. Raquel Reodica, RVM – www.youtube.com/watch?v=wAZcwNimBSg

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Author’s book. At age 26, the author (eastwind) drifted through Europe, hitchhiking 25,000 kilometers for three straight years. He wrote a book on his adventures, Wings and Wanderlust. He learned deep insights that radically changed his view of life, which he wants to share with readers looking for themselves or wanting to catch the wind. More about the book (get a copy) = https://eastwindjournals.com/2023/02/25/more-about-the-book-wings-and-wanderlust/

Author’s Credentials. Blogger – ex-Columnist (Inquirer) – Healing Ministry – ex-Professor (Ateneo University) – Documentary Producer-Director (freelance, ex-ABS-CBN, ex-TVS Tokyo) – ex-Broadcaster (Radio Veritas) – Facebook “Bernie V. Lopez Eastwind” / Pages “Eastwind Journeys and Journals” and “Mary Queen of Peace”.

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